Jed Brewer: How Can I Make My Family Get Saved?

cjlaroza asked you:

It’s difficult when you’re the only christian in your family. Sometimes, I share them my faith about Jesus. They’re listening but I feel like it’s not enough. God knows that it’s one of the most important things for me – the salvation of my family. Is it a sin to want that from God? Is it a sin to feel guilty about your salvation because you see your loved ones with their ruined lives and you can’t just do anything?

Jed Brewer replied:

Hey sis,

Why would it be a sin to want your family to get saved?  I can tell you that, if it’s a sin, then God himself is a great big sinner.  Check it:

“The Lord doesn’t want anyone to be destroyed. Instead, he wants all people to turn away from their sins.” (2 Peter 3:9, NIRV)

Now, you know, of course, that God does not – and cannot – sin.  So, no, it isn’t a sin to want your family to be saved. 

Let’s look at your second question.

You asked if it was a sin to feel guilty about your salvation.  If you’ll permit me, let me ask a slightly different question: Is it OK to grieve when you see people hurting and refusing to change?

Sure it is.  Just look at Jesus. 

“When Jesus saw the crowds, he felt deep concern for them. They were beaten down and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.”  (Matthew 9:36, NIRV)

That sounds a lot like Jesus experiencing grief over other peoples’ unnecessary suffering.

But, sis, I sense – and tell me if I’m wrong – that, maybe, there’s something else going on here.  That, just maybe, you feel like it’s your responsibility to get your family saved.  And that, if you just want it enough, it’ll happen. 

For what it’s worth, I totally understand.  When we’re dealing with people we love, and seeing them go through terrible – and avoidable – difficulties, we want more than anything to find the right words to make them stop it and just get right with Jesus already.

But that isn’t how life works. 

As I bet you know, God alone does the saving.  And it’s the Holy Spirit’s job to convict people of sin.  All you and I can do is try and plant some good seed.

The way we do that is by living a life that other people would want to have.  If you can dig it, I bet your family members already know that you want them to get saved.  Someday, they may reach a point where they’re ready to make a decision about them and Jesus.  In the meantime, I bet that part of what they’re wondering is: what does a “Christian life” actually look like?

So, show them a life defined by joy.  Show them a life ruled by peace, and purpose.  Show them a courage and compassion and faithfulness befitting a daughter of the King.  In other words, show them a life worth wanting.

You can do that.  Of course, it will require you to focus a bit more on you-and-God, and a bit less on them-and-God.  But the truth is, God was patient in bringing you to the point of salvation, and he has that same patience and love for them as well.

He’s got them, and he’s got you.  Give yourself permission to relax and focus on working things out between you and the Lord.  As you do that, you’ll be providing the greatest 24-7 evangelical presentation the world has ever seen.



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