Hey, I am a young adult male and there’s an issue I have/had for a long time and that is people(mainly other christians like me) about my hair when its long(actually about medium) either way I believe that there is absolutely nothing wrong with having “long” hair as a guy because God does not make any commands on it.
You are right. If anything, there are old testament commands to not cut one’s hair short or shave one’s beard (Leviticus 19:27), which were associated with cultures like the Egyptians. There was also an explicit command in Numbers 6:5 that men who had taken a vow to be a Nazirite must let their hair grow long.
A verse that people sometimes use to say that men shouldn’t have long hair is 1 Corinthians 11:14 which says (in the NIV) “Does not the very nature of things teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a disgrace to him,” A lot of scholars believe that Paul is referring not really to length here, but to ornamental and immodesty in appearance. Either way, it is a gross misrepresentation of the Word to think that this verse means God withholds His grace and acceptance from people who have long hair. Does that sound like Jesus?
One of the best parts of the good news of the gospel is that we don’t have to live by rules anymore, we live by a relationship. Romans 6:14 says “For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace.” That is mind-blowingly joyous news and, deep down, a lot of Christians are horribly uncomfortable with it.
People really like rules. Rules are safe. They are predictable. They also let you know exactly who is good and who is bad. Some Christians cling to rules because it allows them to know that they are good because they are not doing what the rule breakers do. That manifests in some nasty ways, often by trying to make people feel uncomfortable in Church, which should be welcoming.
Don’t let the rule mongers bring get you down, whether they be harumphing about hair in church or out demonstrating at a fast food restaurant, because that sin they don’t struggle with is the really bad one. They don’t speak for the God of grace.
-Matt from The Bridge