Hello. I have a question about sexual immorality. The bible talks about avoiding sexual immorality very often. I am single, and I know that I do have sexual thoughts, but I don’t think of all of them as immoral, if this makes sense. What exactly is sexual immorality?
You have forced me into one of those situations where I have to pretend to know anything about Greek. It is easy to overdo, but there are times when going back to the original language can help a lot. That way, you can see the definition and how else that word is used to help you better understand it. The real good news is that you don’t have to spend tens of thousands of dollars on a seminary degree to do that. I use the site biblestudytools.com.
There are a couple of words that get translated as “sexual immorality” in the NIV. One is the greek word “porneia” which is used in 1 Corinthians 5,6, and 7.(no, I’m not making that up I swear), which is translated elsewhere as “fornication”. It is talking specifically about illicit sexual acts such as adultery or incest. Another is “aselgeia” used in Romans 13:13, which is translated elsewhere as “sensuality”. Both of these suggest an action. The act of sex outside of the way God designed it is what is being talked about in these verses.
Sexual thoughts are perfectly normal. God created sex, he created you with a sexual side. That becomes immoral when you don’t exert control over it. 2 Corinthians 10:15 says “we take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ.” You know Jesus doesn’t want you to objectify people or act out sexually. So having a sexual thought is not the problem, it is when you refuse to take that thought captive to Christ.
Thinking about sex doesn’t make you bad, it makes you human. There is nothing wrong with it, unless you let it control you. Your fleshly desires are not in control of your life, Jesus is.
-Matt from The Bridge