Hi! 1 Corinthians 11:3 says that “the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” What does this passage mean for unmarried women with absent fathers or with fathers that may have not taken leadership positions in their lives?
The particular verse you are referring to is talking about the tradition of wearing head coverings during worship in 1st century Corinth, so we shouldn’t drive ourselves nuts reading into those verses outside of their full context. There is a theme in Paul’s writings about the husband as head of the family, most notably in Ephesians 5.
Those verses are unfortunately abused by wildly insecure men who think that “well you should submit because I’m the man” should be the final word when they are called on being a schmuck. What Ephesians says is that wives should obey their husbands as the church obeys Christ and husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the church. The way Christ loved the church is by serving and giving himself up, so those verses mean that both partners in a marriage should love in a self-sacrificial way.
I get the sense from your question that you feel like you are missing out on something by being single and not having a good relationship with your dad, that is not the way a relationship with God works. There is not an ideal set of circumstances that your life has to meet in order to get the full Christian experience. God loves you as you are, and He is working fully in the life you have. Your life is not an incomplete puzzle.
God is a father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5) and Christ is a husband to the Church (Isaiah 54:5, Ephesians 5:31). You are not living a life without something that you need. Now you certainly may want a husband and wish things had gone differently with your dad, that makes perfect sense. But those are not prerequisites to having a full and living relationship with God. You have that right now today.
-Matt from The Bridge