Is it okay to not be okay?
I would say not only is it okay, it is sometimes essential. The honesty to admit that you are not okay almost always has to be the first step in changing something in your life. There is no more soul crushing experience than knowing that you are not making it and having to pretend that you are doing just great.
But you might not know that if you walked into any group of Christians. Churches are full of folks smiling on the outside and screaming on the inside. The only thing that does is put one more barrier between where you are and where you want to be.
Everyone is not okay in some area of their life. So the question isn’t “is it okay to not be okay”, but “is it okay to admit I’m not okay”, and the answer is still yes.
In Matthew 9 Jesus said “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick…For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” He said that in response to religious people who were acting shocked that Jesus associated with people who were obviously not spiritually okay.
Over and over again in the gospels, people literally cry out to Jesus with their not-okayness. The blind man who yells “son of David, have mercy on me”, the woman who had been bleeding for years, and a prostitute who crashed a dinner party all had one thing in common: they were so open about their need for Jesus to fix them that they made even the disciples uncomfortable. Jesus responded to each one of them lovingly and with healing.
We need a savior, therefore we obviously need saving from something. Pretending you are so squared away that you don’t need Jesus is like someone in the ocean after the Titanic being down saying “I’m good, I’ll just swim it off” as the lifeboat went by. It’s not helping you, and no one else is buying it.
Honesty takes courage and strength, and it is the first step to moving forward.
-Matt from The Bridge