Hi – I love this blog & say that! Thank you for making them. I feel bad for asking this question, I know it’s superficial, but is it okay to want to lose weight/get healthier? I know I should love myself the way God created me, but I’m really overweight & unhealthy. I guess I feel like losing weight would give me more confidence to be able to serve God more. But I also feel guilty for not liking the way God made me.
My friend, I feel bad for you. The guilt has got you coming and going here. Only Christians can convince someone that they should feel guilty for wanting to do something for their health.
There is nothing wrong with you wanting to get healthier or to lose weight. There are certainly screwed up motivations to diet and exercise, but it doesn’t seem like you are dealing with those. There is nothing to feel guilty about in wanting to feel better, or even to look better, as long as you don’t let it take you over. It is perfectly possible to eat healthy and work out and still keep God’s opinion of you the most important.
The opposite of a bad idea is another bad idea, the answer almost always lies in between the extremes. Yet, some Christians still think the way to go is to just go in the total opposite of what the world says, but that is still letting the world control you.
As a young lady, you are bombarded with terrible messages about your body. Television, movies, and fashion magazines are all trying to that your value comes from your jean size and how many guys want to have sex with you. So you should be eating only the bare minimum you need to live, and running/lifting/doing yoga with every spare moment you have. That is obviously untrue, not the way God feels about you, and has a devastating effect on people.
The opposite, however, can be just as harmful, as evidenced by the fact that someone would think that God is angry with them for wanting to be healthy. He isn’t. God wants you to be happy with who you are. That certainly means coming to accept flaws in yourself, but it might also mean working to change some things. Losing weight and getting healthier isn’t the key to unlocking everlasting happiness, but it can definitely make you feel better. It can also give you a boost in confidence, not even because of how you look, but because you are seeing positive results of discipline and work.
It is important to have balance about getting healthy. If you find yourself only letting yourself eat if you have run for 2 hours, then things have gone too far. But, barring that kind of extreme, there is nothing you should feel bad about. Have a plan and reasonable expectations, and this could be a good thing for you.
-Matt from The Bridge
Ask Us A Question